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The Sex Lives of Hockey Players

Frost's alleged victims deny three-way sex, but say it's common in hockey

Thu Oct 30, 7:33 PM

By Allison Jones, The Canadian Press

NAPANEE, Ont. - The two men David Frost is alleged to have sexually exploited as teens candidly acknowledged Thursday that group sex is an accepted "bonding" practice in the hockey world but emphatically denied that their former coach took part in threesomes or manipulated their sexual behaviour.

The men were called as defence witnesses - unusual for alleged victims - and the prosecutor suggested that sex acts involving the players, their girlfriends and Frost did in fact happen, and that as two former members of Frost's "cult," they are now trying to protect him.

The last day of testimony at Frost's trial saw both alleged victims refute much of this week's testimony from their former girlfriends. The women, now 28, told court Frost held such sway over his players, holding the key to their hockey careers, that he could compel them to engage in various sex acts in the 1990s.

Frost, the ex-coach of the junior A Quinte Hawks, has pleaded not guilty to four counts of sexual exploitation relating to two of his former players who cannot be named.

The Canadian Press is also not identifying the two women who have testified this week about having sex with players and Frost during the period of the alleged offences, when they were juveniles, though the women are not part of the same publication ban.

The first man to testify Thursday told the court that group sex is common among hockey players and that he has had sexual encounters involving one girl and as many as five or six other males.

"It's like a bonding thing with your friends or teammates," he said.

The man said during cross-examination that it would be unusual for a coach to be involved.

The second man to testify said he never had a threesome with Frost and never had any threesomes at all while playing with the Hawks for one season, contradicting earlier testimony from the two women and a former teammate.

He also played down his on-off, six-year relationship with the woman, which started when they were 16, in which he funded her education, paid for her rent, car and cellphone.

"Are you playing down this relationship because you feel guilty about the way she was used?" Crown attorney Sandy Tse asked.

The man portrayed his ex-girlfriend as promiscuous among hockey players, clingy and not very attractive.

"I was 16. It worked... Beggars can't be choosers," he said.

His ex-girlfriend had testified that Frost insisted the three engage in sex throughout the relationship, even when the player lived in the U.S. and she was visiting. The man initially said Frost had never been to his condo there. During cross-examination, he mentioned a time Frost was at the condo over Christmas.

The man became more and more defensive as his cross-examination progressed, resulting in an outburst in which he denied he was protecting Frost.

"Listen, there's nobody in this courtroom that has more to resent that guy about than me," he said, referring to being associated with Frost and the allegations.

"You can make me look like this guy who was controlled... (but) I'm not controlled by anybody. I'm (me). I'm my own person."

Tse suggested the man was covering for Frost out of a sense of loyalty. When allegations involving Frost and inappropriate behaviour were investigated years ago, the man stopped speaking to his parents for 1 1/2 years, believing they were responsible for the allegations, Tse said.

"That's the loyalty you were showing Mr. Frost."

Frost's inner circle started to form when the two alleged victims were about 11, Tse said. They first played at his hockey camp, then were coached by him in Brampton, Ont. When the five players Frost mentored tried out for the Quinte Hawks and two or three didn't make it, all five returned to Brampton as a unit, the men said.

The bond between the players and Frost was strong, Tse said, suggesting it was so powerful that many people referred to the group as a "cult."

The first witness didn't agree they were like a cult, but acknowledged "that's what was perceived of us."

He also denied two threesomes his ex-girlfriend testified occurred between the young couple and Frost. He said they did have two threesomes - just with Mike Danton, who went on to play in the NHL.

Danton, who played for the Hawks during Frost's tenure, later played for the St. Louis Blues and is currently in prison in the U.S. for a failed murder-for-hire plot that allegedly targeted Frost.

Tse introduced a letter, which he said Frost had written to the group, giving advice such as remembering that sacrifices lead to success and to read more books. It also emphasized the need to stay close and support each other.

"Isn't that what you're doing today?" Tse asked the witness. "Standing together, keeping the bond and protecting Mr. Frost?"

Closing arguments in the trial are scheduled for Monday, and the judge will deliver his decision Nov. 28.